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One of the main reasons - there are too many to count - that I feel called to share yoga with the world is because of what it's done for me. My practice was the first thing that gave me the tools to notice what was happening in my head, the perspective to see how this was impacting my life and the wisdom to know that the power to change was actually within me.
It taught me that I always have a choice.
Here's the catch though. That choice is only available to me and you when we are able to recognize that something needs to change. We have to have the self-awareness to connect the dots between what we're thinking and how we're feeling.
It really isn't rocket science. If you want a different outcome, you have to get to the root of the problem, address it and make a change. Any guess on what's often the root of the problem? Hate to break it to you, but it's you.
Often the source of your suffering can be linked back to what you believe about yourself. There's a limiting belief that a lot of us carry around which limits our joy, hinders our experience of life and creates a lot of issues in everything we do. Maybe you've heard it before.
I am not [Good] enough.
I put the [good] in brackets here because it's replaceable. We often tell ourselves that if we just change something or get something, we'll finally feel like enough. I feel confident writing this post because I'm no stranger to it. Before I was introduced to yoga, mindfulness and all of this transformation work, 'I am not enough' was a curse (unbeknownst to me) that followed me everywhere. To be perfectly honest, it's still there but now I can at least say I'm aware of it and know how to lower the volume on it.
It's a terrible way of viewing yourself and the world. It's dripping in comparison, jealousy, judgement and competition. It oozes insecurity, fear and doubt.
Have you ever heard that voice in your head say that you are:
- not skinny enough.
- not smart enough.
- not successful enough.
- not cool enough.
- not good enough.
Bottom line is, when this limiting belief is dominating your thoughts, you will never, ever be enough. You'll always be out there seeking and searching. Looking for the next person, place, job, or thing that will finally make you feel whole. No matter how hard you try, you'll always end up feeling the same way. Why? You aren't addressing the real problem:
You can't focus on all that you have because you're constantly looking at what's missing.
You can't appreciate all that you are because you're beating yourself up for all That you aren't.
You need to realize that you don't need to do more, be more or buy more to feel like you're good enough (although there's nothing wrong with these things if they're coming from the right mindset). You have to see that if it's all in your mind and you're the problem, then you're also the solution. You just have to change how you see yourself (which I'll admit, is definitely easier said than done). That's the work.
YOU have to shift that deep rooted belief that YOU need to be more into the confident belief that YOU are enough.
You always have been and you always will be.
If this post resonates with you and you're feeling like wait, that's it? Where's my tool to stop the limiting belief when it rears it's ugly head? I'll leave you with this. Next time you find yourself thinking I'm not [good] enough, stop and ask yourself, if I told my Mom, Dad, Sibling, Best Friend that I think this about myself - would they agree with me? My guess is NO! This is a great way to catch your brain when it is lying to you, because believe me it does that all the time. Then you come back to the truth that you are and always will be enough. Catch yourself as often as you need to. From one limiting belief expert to another - it's a lifelong practice.