Eyes need a break from the screen?
Listen instead. Press play!
I had a serious moment of hesitation shortly after I published last weeks post, What Makes You Happy? I shared it with the world and then went to the kitchen to tackle the piled up dishes before going to bed. I was scrubbing away at a pan when I started overanalyzing this blog, my writing and what it is exactly that I'm trying to share with you.
I started worrying that I might be coming off as 'preachy' with these posts.
Come on, the girl who has never had a corporate job, has lived a really blessed life and hasn't even hit 30 (that's coming up fast ha) somehow thinks she knows how I should live my life. Cue the eye roll. I'm with you! According to Urban Dictionary "the cut and dry definition of preachy is a term used to describe a person who is more times than not, giving advice in an irritating...or overbearing way." You know, those people that try to shove their ideas down your throat. Before I get into the rest of this post, you should know that I'm in no way saying how anyone else chooses to share their message is wrong. Some people are extremely passionate, confidently vocal and believe so much in their message that they can't help but preach. I'm simply reflecting on my own purpose here and the reality is that forcing people to do all the things I do has never been my style and is never going to be my intention with this blog or in my classes.
The world today is amazing. We're constantly connected no matter the physical distance that exists between us. The World Wide Web (remember when we used to call it that) and social media has given us the opportunity to share ourselves. We're able to speak our truth and spread our message whether we have two followers or millions of them. For example, the 'OG' version of this blog had just two subscribers - my Mom and my Nana - but I was still able to sit down, type out some words and share my thoughts with the click of a button.
It's a beautiful thing and I'm all for it.
But at the same time, I can so clearly see how it's made the world a really F'd up place (I still can't swear just in case Nana's reading from way up there). Everyone has an opinion, an outlet to share it and the ability to sway the rest of us into thinking that the way we're doing things is somehow wrong. We see other people who have the answers and know 'the way'.
But here's the thing, there is no way.
Like I said last week, we're all so different in every single aspect of what makes us who we are.
That means that living our best life is never going to look exactly the same person to person.
Before yoga became such a big part of my life, I had a highly critical, over reactive and at times incredibly irrational way of thinking. I really need this practice to keep my mind in a healthy place. Yoga makes me a better person in all ways and I'm so grateful that my job is to share it with other people. I'm also really clear on the fact that all of the people in my life don't need yoga the same way I do. Take my Mom for example, I love her to pieces and if you compare our brains in their natural state - we're talking no yoga Jenn - I'm not quite sure how she made me. She's calm, rational and doesn't overthink things. She loves yoga, but if she didn't practice it for a year, I doubt I'd notice much difference in who she is and how she acts. Me on the other hand, let's not even go there!
What's been 'the way' for me doesn't have to be 'the way' for her.
No one can tell you what's best for you because no one is inside your head. Their way doesn't have to be your way and I think that's an important thing to remember in this over connected world we find ourselves in. The best person to show you 'the way' is, you guessed it, you! Take the time to truly get to know yourself, what feels good to you, learn what's worked for other people and take on the pieces of their approach that fit for you. But at the same time, stop believing that the answer to living your best life is in someone else's hands. It's in yours. You just have to turn the volume down on all of the outside noise so you can actually hear what you think and feel what you feel.
I don't believe that there is a one size fits all approach to anything in life. Imagine we all had to wear the same jeans? That would be awkward.
The words, the questions, the 'advice' that appears on this blog is here on a take what you need and leave what you don't basis.
There are some serious limitations to the 29 years of experience that I've had on this planet. I'm simply sharing what I've learned in hopes that if it helped me, it might help you. Even if it's just one person out there that resonates with what I say, that one person means that I've made a difference. If you're ever reading something I've written from the place of thinking ugh, she thinks she has it all figured out, I promise you I don't and I know that I never will. I hope that you remember to be just a little skeptical of anyone that makes it seem like they do.
Let's continue to share ourselves, learn from our experiences and inspire when we can. But let's drop the need to tell people what's best for them. The reality is, we only know what's best for ourselves. Unless your a Mom, then you somehow always know what your kids need. The morning after I worried about being 'preachy' but didn't tell anyone, my phone lights up with a text from Nance saying: I loved your blog post. You have a gift of delivering a clear message in a 'non preachy' way. Even when she's an ocean away she somehow always knows what I need to hear.
This blogs purpose: sharing what I'm learning, as I learn it.
Your job as a reader: take what you need, leave what you don't.
That's all for now my friends.
Until next week,