"People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, "Soften the orange a bit in the right hand corner"
I don't try to control a sunset.
I watch with awe as it unfolds."
Carl R Rogers
I've always loved this quote. Probably because I've always had a tendency to pick myself apart. Thinking that if I could just fix this, change that, tone this, then I'd finally feel comfortable and happy in my own skin. But a funny thing would happen when I'd actually make these changes. Whether it was trimming down, toning up or changing something about my appearance - I never felt any better about myself when the changes were made. That critical voice in my head would just focus itself on something different. A new problem I had to fix. It was this never ending cycle of not being happy with who I was.
I think we all do this to some extent. We look in the mirror and see ourselves as some sort of unfinished project. A fixer upper. Thinking that if we just work hard enough at changing ourselves, then one day we'll be able to look in the mirror and love what we see. But that never happens because it's not us that's the problem. It's the way we see ourselves that needs to change.
We all need the reminder to look at ourselves with kind eyes. This quote about sunsets always does that for me. I want you to remember it the next time you find yourself thinking you need to trim a little off your thighs, tighten up your belly, straighten your curls, make your forehead smaller (just me? ha) or any other nit-picky ridiculous expectation you place on yourself to change so you can finally be happy with who you are.
What if we all looked at ourselves the same way we look at sunsets or any other beautiful stretch of scenery? I remember this sunset so clearly. I was blown away by it's beauty and felt so lucky to be alive and in that exact place, at that exact time. Is it perfect? Well yes, obviously because it's so not perfect. There's no symmetry. There's no straight lines. It's all blended into one perfect colourful masterpiece. A gift from the universe.
You're a masterpiece too.
Spending your short time on this planet worried about the dimples in your thighs or the size of your stomach or any other part of your physical body is a waste of this precious gift you've been given - your life.